I remember the first time a doctor told me I had to help Jaedon learn some skill (like looking in my eyes) that he was not doing and that typical kids did effortlessly. I was freaked out! If my son has no inclination to do a particular thing, how in the world could I make him???
I've discovered that I may not be able to make
him do anything, but I can encourage him, celebrate him and even ask him to do a whole lot of things. So many of the not-so solid skills, the missed steps that our kids are challenged by, are things that they already do, perhaps infrequently, unintentionally and with a looong
delay. Yet, whatever we focus our energies on becomes bigger. I've decided to be a detective for my son's hidden skills so I can celebrate them like crazy. If I don't believe they are there, I won't even see them when they show up. So I have a built in curiosity about what he does. Everything is examined for the value, the possibilities, the learnings. When I see something that I want to see more of, I celebrate it
. When I haven't seen it yet, or not seen it in a long while, I ask for it
. I explain why
I'd like to see that thing. You know what? Sometimes he just does it!